Meat is For Men, Milk is For Women?


If your church announced a new women’s small group meeting, what would you expect? If you visited your local Christian bookstore, what kind of resources would be available in the “For Women” section? While women have unique needs, our pink, flowery book covers and human-centered, feeling-driven approach to women’s ministry makes a clear statement: meat is for men, milk is for women (Heb. 5:12).

Women are some of the most brilliant, perceptive, and capable members of our congregations. Women deserve more.

A High View of Women, A High View of Women’s Ministry

The local church should be a place where women can talk about their feelings, build lifelong friendships, find emotional support, and discover their identities as Kingdom daughters. However, support groups and heart-to-heart talks are not enough. Transformative women’s ministry is Word-centered.

As long as our needs and our identities are the focus of what we are doing, we are missing the greatest treasure: “the light of the knowledge of the glory of God in the face of Jesus Christ” (2 Cor. 4:6). How do we gaze into the face of this glory—the face of Jesus Christ? How do we see this glory? Solid Bible teaching.

Heart-to-heart talks are not enough. Transformative women’s ministry is Word-centered.

Solid Bible teaching is not measured by how many commentaries we refer to or by the number of Greek words we reference. While solid Bible teaching requires solid exposition, which engages these tools, we would all be bored if that were the end of the matter. Nobody is transformed when they see that.

People are transformed when they see Jesus. Solid Bible teaching is about offering people Jesus, not offering people ourselves. It is about revealing the glory of God in His Word, not inspiring people with our abilities. The tragedy of many evangelical women’s ministries is that they are packed with emotion, charisma, and personal narrative, but little or no Bible.

Nancie Guthrie observes, “women love story — personal, winsome, emotional, funny storybut story can be a stumbling block. We hear all the time ‘just tell your story, your story has power.’ Here’s what I would say: use your story to tell God’s story. Our stories have the power to amuse, impress, and inspire, but only God’s Story, centered in the person and work of Christ, has the power to make dead people alive!”

The Heart of Women’s Ministry

Frances Ridley Havergal wrote,

Looking into Jesus,
Wond’ringly we trace
Heights of power and glory,
Depths of love and grace.
Vistas far unfolding
Ever stretch before,
As we gaze, beholding,
Ever more and more.

The Scriptures are the lens through which we behold Jesus, ever more and more. From Genesis to Revelation, we trace the heights of power and glory. In verse-by-verse Bible study, we uncover depths of love and grace. At the end of our exposition we find vistas far unfolding, like the magnificent view after ascending a steep mountain.

The heart of women’s ministry is beholding Jesus through the lens of Scripture.

In Luke 24:27, “beginning at Moses and all the prophets, [Jesus] expounded unto them in all the scriptures the things concerning himself.” Do you want to see Jesus? Look for Him in His Word. Look hard. Dig. Probe. Search. Study. Hang on every verse and word as if your life, husband, and children depended on it — because they very well may. Don’t settle for the status quo! In a world that is captivated with “empowering women” to do all kinds of God-dishonoring things, the Lord can empower you to “rightly divide the Word of truth” with exacting accuracy (2 Tim. 2:15).

Sharon Hodde Miller is right: “Too often, women approach Scripture asking not ‘Who is God?’ but ‘Who am I?’” Seeing Jesus is the beauty of the Bible. Our identities are best informed by identifying Him. As we see Jesus in the Scriptures, “we all, with open face beholding as in a glass the glory of the Lord, are changed into the same image from glory to glory, even as by the Spirit of the Lord” (2 Cor. 3:18). This is the kind of solid Bible teaching that women need to be spiritually fruitful.

Treasuring Women of the Word

In Acts 18, Priscilla and her husband Aquila “expounded unto [Apollos] the way of God more perfectly” (Acts 18:26). She expounded! Through systematic, intelligent exposition of the Scriptures, she and her husband were able to convince a man who was “mighty in the scriptures” (Acts 18:24).

A Word-filled woman sharpens those around her.

Does Priscilla fit our conventional idea of a Proverbs 31 woman? Why not! A Word-filled woman can be just as feminine, meek and quiet spirited (1 Pet. 3:4), submissive to her husband (Eph. 5:22), and attentive to her domestic responsibilities (Titus 2:4) as any other woman. One of the positive things that we often overlook in 1 Corinthians 14:35 (“if they will learn anything, let them ask their husbands at home”) is that the women desired to learn! They asked questions! The church must cultivate this kind of interest and channel it in appropriate ways. My wife comes to me several times each week with excellent Bible questions. When discipling couples, I find that the wives are often more perceptive than their husbands and ask some of the most scrutinizing questions.

The kind of woman who is teaching other women “good things” (Titus 2:3-5) should certainly be well-versed in the Word. This kind of woman, a word-filled woman, sharpens those around her. “She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue” (Prov. 31:26). We need more Priscillas—and pastors who encourage and equip them to use their gifts.

Johnathan Arnold
Johnathan Arnold
Johnathan Arnold is President and Founder of Holy Joys. He serves as a preaching and teaching pastor in Newport, PA, where he lives with his wife Alexandra and son Adam. You can connect with him on Twitter @jsarnold7.